No one can argue that potty training is indeed a challenge, especially when it comes to doing it in 3 days and even more so when it comes to potty training twins in 3 days.
But for parents who want to potty train their twin toddlers there’s also some good news which can make training easier.
I’m talking about peer pressure. Each twin can be a positive influence on his brother or sister.
If one child gets it right, 9 times out of 10, the other one will follow suit.
This is just one of the main factors you should take in consideration when toilet training twins or multiple toddlers.
There are other factors that also make things easier which I’ll share with you in this post.
But before you start potty training your twins you must be almost 100% sure they’re ready to begin toilet training.
If you spend a lot of time with your children I’m sure you’ve noticed some readiness signs. There are about 8 or 9 signals that your child gives when he or she is ready to start potty training.
Most children won’t display all the signs of readiness, so if you notice 4-5 signs it means your child is probably ready.
So, if you’re confident your twins are ready to begin toilet training here are 9 tips to get you started on the right path.
Should you potty train twins together or one at a time?
You don’t have to feel that you should potty train your twins at the same time.
Although I’ve noticed that in the long run potty training them at the same time is much easier, sometimes one twin will be ready to be potty trained a lot sooner than his sibling.
How will you reward them?
As a parent potty training their child, rewards are one of the best tools in your parenting toolbox, but when it comes to twins, potty training rewards can make the training go much smoother or they can create total chaos.
I’ve seen both happen.
When I say chaos, I’m talking about how will one child react to only his sibling getting a reward and not him too.
If there’s a healthy sense of competition the child that didn’t get a reward will feel encouraged by his brother’s success.
Try using rewards that would involve both twins like a song or a dance.
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One potty or two potties?
Two potties. Always.
Without a doubt, each twin with his own potty is the best way to go.
You’ll avoid situations where both twins need to go at the same time and there won’t be any races as to who gets to the potty first.
Let your twins their potties with stickers or markers so they’ll know which is which. Decorating will also make them more excited to use the potties, usually.
Keep your toddlers on the same schedule
If you twins eat, drink and sleep at the same time, they’re also more than likely use the potty together.
When one child needs to use the potty bring his brother or sister and encourage him to use the potty too.
This is the easy way. Of course you can always spend your time rushing one child to the bathroom and then the other, but I would not recommend this.
More toddlers = more of everything
More of everything means more accidents, more fails, more tantrums, more supplies but also more successes and more amazing moments spent with your children.
If you find yourself overwhelmed there is not shame in bringing in some reinforcements to help you out.
You can hire a babysitter or get grandma to come and help, or a close friend. It’s your choice.
You need to realize that you won’t be able to devote your full attention to both twins at the same time, so when you’re taking one to the potty it’s good to have someone else keep an eye on the other one.
They may be twins but they’re not the same
Twins have different personalities.
You need to adjust your approach accordingly with each one.
One child might react better to a certain type of reward or encouragement while with the other one you might need a completely different approach.
As an example, for one child talking about needing to use the potty might come very easy while for the other you might need to get the words out of him yourself.
Dress in light clothes
If your twins are more loosely dressed, there will be fewer clothes getting in your way and fewer clothes you need to clean if an accident happens.
Dressing you twins light, in clothes they can manage to take off by themselves will also increase their confidence and allow them to feel more independent as they go through the potty training routines.
Nothing with buttons, zippers or fancy snaps.
If accidents happen and trust me they will, punishing or shaming your child would be a huge mistake.
Whether your potty training twins, triplets or just one toddler, the most important rule of potty training is: don’t punish or scold your child.
You need to be patient.
You need to be positive.
And you need to remember that your child tries his very best to please and impress you.
When an accident happens, don’t add to his embarrassment by trying to discipline him.
What you can do instead is to encourage him or her that it’s ok and that accidents happen to everyone and that you’re always there for him.
Peer pressure: good or bad?
I’ve said it in the beginning of this post, when it comes to potty training twins, positive peer pressure speeds up the training.
But this has to come natural, from your children’s need to imitate each other’s behavior. And most of the times the behaviour they choose to imitate is the one that pleases mommy and daddy the most.
A child doesn’t need for you to point out his brother’s success in order for him to start imitating him and figure it out too.
By comparing your children this way all the advantages of positive peer pressure are gone, and might also trigger feelings of jealousy.
That’s it for now.
Use the tips above to start potty training your twin toddlers.
Remember that your children will learn how to use the toilet eventually. Just be patient and keep a positive and loving attitude.